Get yourself some accountability, like a committed gym buddy or a friend who can cheerlead for you. Then make a clear decision to act.
2. Your stress leaks out
You might be able to live with the amount of stress you’re carrying, but take some time to see how it impacts those around you. You can go so far as to ask them their opinion.
Try asking your spouse: “How would your life be different if I was healthier and less tense?”
You can say to a co-worker: “Can I ask you for some personal feedback? Can you tell when I’m stressed or worn out? How does it impact you when I am?”
If these are scary questions to ask, a good men’s group like those offered at EVRYMAN can be the perfect place for reflection. A caring community can provide valuable feedback on how you show up and impact others.
3. You deserve to feel good
This one is deep — and not many men have the capacity to let this one sink in.
I usually use a logical trick to bring this one home. I’ll ask a man, “Is there anyone in your life that you think doesn’t deserve to be healthy and feel good?”
I’ve only ever heard one answer: “Of course not.”
I follow it up with, “Why would you be the only single person you know that doesn’t deserve this?”
Usually I get a deep meaningful silence, and sometimes a tear or two.
Ah, the midlife crisis. It’s almost a rite of passage, like puberty but with more existential dread and a higher likelihood of splurging on impractical cars. Hollywood loves it, your coworker who suddenly showed up with a motorcycle loves it, and there’s a chance you might too, especially if you find yourself googling “How to start over at 40?” at 2 AM.
But guess what? The whole “midlife crisis” gig doesn’t have to be a downer. In fact, it’s the perfect excuse to reboot your life and inject some fresh, zesty energy into the everyday. No red sports cars required (unless that’s your jam, then vroom vroom, my friend).
1. Me, Myself, and I Time
Feeling like a human stress-ball? Welcome to Club Midlife. It’s time to put yourself on your to-do list. Seriously, taking a hot minute (or thirty) to focus on what you actually want can be a game-changer. So, before diving headfirst into any major life shake-ups, do a little soul searching. Your future self will thank you.
2. Celebrate the Evolution
Life’s a rollercoaster, and midlife is that twisty bit where you start screaming for no reason. Embrace it! Acknowledge the ups, downs, loop-the-loops, and those bits where you thought you’d hurl. Reflecting on these changes helps you understand where you’ve been and where you’re headed. Plus, giving props to the good stuff? Always a mood booster.
3. Become a Brainiac
Stuck in a rut? Learning new tricks isn’t just for the young or furry. Picking up a new skill or hobby is like brain fertilizer – it keeps your gray matter groovy and gives you something cool to talk about at parties. From coding to crocheting, the world’s your classroom. Get curious!
4. Rally the Squad
Remember those folks you’ve shared a laugh, a cry, or a cringe-worthy karaoke session with? They’re your tribe, and keeping those connections strong is like emotional gold. Shoot a text, make a call, or send a carrier pigeon. Whatever it takes to say, “Hey, you matter to me.”
5. Rekindle the Romance
If your love life’s feeling more historical fiction than steamy romance, it’s time to stoke those flames. Date nights, spontaneous compliments, or a weekend getaway can fan the embers back into a bonfire. Single? Midlife’s a fantastic time to figure out what you want from love and maybe swipe right on some new adventures.
6. Mix Up Your Moves
Exercise, but make it fun. If the thought of another treadmill session makes you want to fake a hamstring injury, it’s time to try something new. Dance classes, hiking, underwater basket weaving – whatever floats your boat. Staying active keeps your body and mind sharp (and makes you a hit at dance parties).
7. Embrace a Mini Makeover
Ever wanted to try something new but thought, “Nah, that’s not me”? Well, now’s the time to throw caution to the wind. Adopt a healthy habit that sparks joy and watch as it blossoms into something beautiful. Or kick a bad habit to the curb and strut down the street like the rockstar you are.
8. Outdoor Shenanigans
Nature’s not just pretty to look at; it’s like a giant, free spa for your psyche. Whether it’s a leisurely stroll, a mountain conquest, or just lounging in the sun, getting outside can turbocharge your mood and make you feel all kinds of awesome.
9. Passion Projects FTW
Feeling blah about your job? Channel some of that energy into something that sets your heart aflutter. Whether it’s resurrecting a long-lost hobby or launching a side hustle, dedicating time to what you love can transform your outlook and maybe even your career.
10. Therapy: Not Just for Sitcoms
Life’s complicated, and sometimes we need a little help sorting through the clutter. Therapy’s like having a personal trainer for your emotions – it strengthens your mental health, helps you navigate transitions, and supports you in living your best life.
Curtain Call
Who says midlife has to be a crisis? With a little creativity, some self-reflection, and a willingness to try new things, it can be the most exhilarating chapter yet. So, lace up those adventure shoes, dial up your favorite humans, and dive headfirst into making midlife a celebration. After all, why just endure when you can thrive?
